To 13 months, many parents begin to feel the stubbornness of children and to engage them in conflict, because the kids loudly declare your desires. This is the age of surprises for parents. But for children it is natural at this age to Express their desires, their opinions, develop a sense of his power and the feeling of influence on the world. For them it is now the main task.
A feature of this age is the word “no”, but it turns out that we teach this to their children. Neuroscientist Alan shore said that the baby hears the word “no” or its equivalent on average every nine minutes. Kids want to assert their will, and for them it is quite natural goal, but every time they hear: “No, you cannot play the pot on the couch, give it to me. Don’t run, sit in the car now. No, candy is not. No, it may break. Don’t fight!” Legitimate bans, every one of them. But the kid does not see the grounds for them, so most children resent, rebel and check every ban. This new feature is belligerent stubbornness — the first step to taking responsibility for yourself. Now if he’s not allowed to tell you “no”, then he will not be able to say “no” to their peers when they become a teenager. Give him a chance Continue reading