All good habits of children parents consider its merit, and in the poor blaming the street, friends and, of course, school. You can often hear as a mother complains that her son was a good, sweet boy, but I went to school not to learn: constantly arguing, with all the quarrels, trying to offend. Grieving mother in this situation is clear – we want to see in their children only the best quality. The more a shame when you have these qualities we try to instill.
But is it so much to be frightened by bad habits?
First, any habit is basically a need. Therefore to fight it by prohibitions and punishments often simply impossible.
Secondly, bad habits parents often consider those that don’t like them. Actually, the division habits good and bad is very relative.
Adults understand that when it comes to their own “oddities”. But to children, we tend to be more demanding.
Thirdly, the emergence of habits and inclinations are largely due to their personalities and upbringing in early childhood, so the “bad” example – though the streets, even though the school is not so terrible Continue reading
The lectures of the famous British child psychiatrist and psychoanalyst addressed to pediatricians, internists, obstetricians, nurses, and, of course, parents. For parents and expectant moms and dads – this book is immensely important because it relieves the unfounded anxiety and instills confidence. It describes and analyzes motherhood as it is, without horror and embellishment. For example, the feeling of total absorption in newborn, bordering on extinction of self, depression and irritation, fear of being “a bad mother”, the strange behavior of the child.
Professionals will be pleasantly surprised or, conversely, puzzled and a little shocked, but I’ll get food for thought.
Probably, Winnicott was also a kind man.
It is difficult to write the Foreword to the book, which is not like him, but maybe even harder to the one that is admired. I want to use some superlatives, and I think, I myself would this Preface did not believe. But what to do if the book of Winnicott is really an absolutely unique phenomenon in the psychological and psychoanalytic literature, and his figure is seen standing at the gates of modern non-classical analysis may be a kind of measure things.
I remember such a case: Continue reading
Every day our children come from school (kindergarten) and while we, moms, are busy with housework, they spend their leisure time at computers and televisions, where time to watch cartoons, play dress up games. “What cartoons began to show now? And how do they affect the baby?», – more often parents too late think about it, because it is now formed identity of the children, their psyche, Outlook, ability to distinguish between good and evil.
With cartoon adaptations your child builds in the mind set of images associated with a man and a woman. Especially important is the image of the girl in contemporary fairy tales, not how she looks, and her consciousness and habits – after all, if you have a girl, she is looking for a example on the “big screen”, and the boy – shapes in the subconscious ideal woman, which then connects life. The researchers concluded that female gender, in the movie of our time, lost neatness, modesty, romance, and approached more to the crafty, gloating and physiological needs. In the eyes of a child, a good and kind human qualities may lose value. As for children’s vision male image on the screen – here the situation is no better.
The main characters Continue reading