Modern style – assertive, aggressive, bold. Teenage girls trying to keep up guys: foul language, doing karate and Wu Shu, Smoking, drinking, “change partners”, often joined gangs. Femininity many feel undervalued, seen as a sign of weakness. In honor of a friend’s He-man, are able to put the opponent on shovels. Them, however, it is difficult to imagine a gentle, caring mothers. But it is not necessary, they are not that type. And look at toys. Unless earlier girls were invited to play in culturistic, hung with a variety of weapons? In fairness, I note that charming dolls with porcelain faces, too, of course, is on the shelves. But first, cannot afford them, and secondly, this is yesterday, the retro. I’m not talking about books. In fact, twenty years ago, we had enough specifically the maiden references (here it is, “asexual pedagogy”!): read to the holes “Dink” Aseeva, some story of Lev Kassil, novels of Alexander green, very popular in the 70’s and 80’s. “girls, girls, Girls is the book for you.” Now books for girls and less. Old not all reissued, and the new is, in General, crime and adventure for boys and about boys. Even “Alice” Kir Bulychev, in my experience, Continue reading
For fifth-grader who comes to school on 1 September, everything is new. The transition of pupils from primary to secondary school coincides with a peculiar late childhood — stable period of development in a child’s life. Yesterday he was young, and tomorrow will be a solid fifth-grader. In fifth grade your child will find a new adulthood, a new system of instruction: the class teacher and subject teachers who teach new subjects in different rooms. Some fifth graders are proud to have grown up, and is quickly drawn into the learning process, while others experience changes in school life, and adapting to them is delayed. The successful adaptation of a younger teenager depends not only on its intellectual readiness, but also on how well he is able to build relationships and communicate with classmates and teachers, to comply with school rules, to be guided in new situations. In this period, children often change — anxious without any obvious reason, become timid, or, conversely, a cheeky, too much fuss. As a result the boys reduced efficiency, they become forgetful, disorganized, sometimes in children worsen sleep and appetite.Therefore, among the difficulties Continue reading
The first sign that delivers the infant to the adult, it is screaming and crying. Report problems to the baby until it can only be the only available method. How to understand what the child wants to say and how to help him? Why is the child crying?
The first child’s cry has a “human” sense, it means something. The baby can be hot or cold, he was hungry, to drink, to sleep, sometimes he wants to communicate and just bored one lie in the crib. From the first days it is better to listen to a crying baby, to answer this important question “Why is baby crying?”, and to begin to discern what different types of crying, what it sounds intonation – complaint, demand, claim. The view that “let her scream – your lungs will be better developed” may not be here as a guide to action. Imagine what would have happened if all the strength had tried to inform others about the need for aid, and they would be turned away from You and did not react. But baby it all feels. A crying baby is not a way to “manipulate” adults, and a cry for help in a situation is really problematic for the baby.
Why is the child crying?
What you need to pay attention, trying to understand why the child is crying:
The nature of the cry: intense, sharp, long, loud, the volume Continue reading
All good habits of children parents consider its merit, and in the poor blaming the street, friends and, of course, school. You can often hear as a mother complains that her son was a good, sweet boy, but I went to school not to learn: constantly arguing, with all the quarrels, trying to offend. Grieving mother in this situation is clear – we want to see in their children only the best quality. The more a shame when you have these qualities we try to instill.
But is it so much to be frightened by bad habits?
First, any habit is basically a need. Therefore to fight it by prohibitions and punishments often simply impossible.
Secondly, bad habits parents often consider those that don’t like them. Actually, the division habits good and bad is very relative.
Adults understand that when it comes to their own “oddities”. But to children, we tend to be more demanding.
Thirdly, the emergence of habits and inclinations are largely due to their personalities and upbringing in early childhood, so the “bad” example – though the streets, even though the school is not so terrible Continue reading
The lectures of the famous British child psychiatrist and psychoanalyst addressed to pediatricians, internists, obstetricians, nurses, and, of course, parents. For parents and expectant moms and dads – this book is immensely important because it relieves the unfounded anxiety and instills confidence. It describes and analyzes motherhood as it is, without horror and embellishment. For example, the feeling of total absorption in newborn, bordering on extinction of self, depression and irritation, fear of being “a bad mother”, the strange behavior of the child.
Professionals will be pleasantly surprised or, conversely, puzzled and a little shocked, but I’ll get food for thought.
Probably, Winnicott was also a kind man.
It is difficult to write the Foreword to the book, which is not like him, but maybe even harder to the one that is admired. I want to use some superlatives, and I think, I myself would this Preface did not believe. But what to do if the book of Winnicott is really an absolutely unique phenomenon in the psychological and psychoanalytic literature, and his figure is seen standing at the gates of modern non-classical analysis may be a kind of measure things.
I remember such a case: Continue reading