The lectures of the famous British child psychiatrist and psychoanalyst addressed to pediatricians, internists, obstetricians, nurses, and, of course, parents. For parents and expectant moms and dads – this book is immensely important because it relieves the unfounded anxiety and instills confidence. It describes and analyzes motherhood as it is, without horror and embellishment. For example, the feeling of total absorption in newborn, bordering on extinction of self, depression and irritation, fear of being “a bad mother”, the strange behavior of the child.
Professionals will be pleasantly surprised or, conversely, puzzled and a little shocked, but I’ll get food for thought.
Probably, Winnicott was also a kind man.
It is difficult to write the Foreword to the book, which is not like him, but maybe even harder to the one that is admired. I want to use some superlatives, and I think, I myself would this Preface did not believe. But what to do if the book of Winnicott is really an absolutely unique phenomenon in the psychological and psychoanalytic literature, and his figure is seen standing at the gates of modern non-classical analysis may be a kind of measure things.
I remember such a case: Continue reading
It was believed that girls are more important mother, for a boy — dad. But times and mores have changed…
In the old days everything was loud and clear: the father — getter, moral authority, protection and support. He has the right to prohibit and punish, to guide the child in choosing a career. Mother — the Keeper of the hearth. She settles the household, takes care of children, providing emotional support. Today, increasingly, we observed sex-role exchange. Mother and father also become interchangeable figures.
THE MORES OF A NEW ERA
That daddy knows how to wash and cook, and my mother — to make good money, is no surprise. It is believed that flexibility, flexible parental roles positively affects the child’s development, because modern society requires individuals of the same — flexibility, ability to compromise, to adapt to the circumstances. Brutal cowboys and pampered Princess in the past. Today plays a major role strong personality, individuality, able to withstand the stresses of the information society, to know themselves and develop their best side. This is what psychologists and sociologists suggest that you prepare.
Mom for the baby — the whole world. It is important physical intimacy moms, breastfeeding, constant tactile Continue reading
As we often hear from parents that children do not pay attention to requests. And the parents are angry, frustrated, “How many times can you play that again? You are deaf. “. So why children do not respond to the request?
Remember the three main rules .
The authority of a parent is never to question. Forget these words: “You don’t obey me”. Keep your face, do not get hysterical. This does not mean that you need to talk to your child rude and inconsiderate. The child does not respond instantly to your requests? Do not rush to blame! Think about it, the baby was very tired and just doesn’t want to hear your instructions to do the things that make it not able to. Maybe the kid just thought, focused on his own feelings. Except with you it isn’t that you can’t hear anything around, absorbed in their emotions? Whether your requirement matches the capabilities and age of your child? Think about that before you put the task in front of the baby. Mom nervously flashy two-three-year-old children: “don’t move! Stay where you are! Don’t run! Now, sit still!”, — to cause confusion. You understand that a child of three should not sit quietly, for him, this state is not normal and pathological. Children at this age needs Continue reading