Modern style – assertive, aggressive, bold. Teenage girls trying to keep up guys: foul language, doing karate and Wu Shu, Smoking, drinking, “change partners”, often joined gangs. Femininity many feel undervalued, seen as a sign of weakness. In honor of a friend’s He-man, are able to put the opponent on shovels. Them, however, it is difficult to imagine a gentle, caring mothers. But it is not necessary, they are not that type. And look at toys. Unless earlier girls were invited to play in culturistic, hung with a variety of weapons? In fairness, I note that charming dolls with porcelain faces, too, of course, is on the shelves. But first, cannot afford them, and secondly, this is yesterday, the retro. I’m not talking about books. In fact, twenty years ago, we had enough specifically the maiden references (here it is, “asexual pedagogy”!): read to the holes “Dink” Aseeva, some story of Lev Kassil, novels of Alexander green, very popular in the 70’s and 80’s. “girls, girls, Girls is the book for you.” Now books for girls and less. Old not all reissued, and the new is, in General, crime and adventure for boys and about boys. Even “Alice” Kir Bulychev, in my experience, Continue reading
The lectures of the famous British child psychiatrist and psychoanalyst addressed to pediatricians, internists, obstetricians, nurses, and, of course, parents. For parents and expectant moms and dads – this book is immensely important because it relieves the unfounded anxiety and instills confidence. It describes and analyzes motherhood as it is, without horror and embellishment. For example, the feeling of total absorption in newborn, bordering on extinction of self, depression and irritation, fear of being “a bad mother”, the strange behavior of the child.
Professionals will be pleasantly surprised or, conversely, puzzled and a little shocked, but I’ll get food for thought.
Probably, Winnicott was also a kind man.
It is difficult to write the Foreword to the book, which is not like him, but maybe even harder to the one that is admired. I want to use some superlatives, and I think, I myself would this Preface did not believe. But what to do if the book of Winnicott is really an absolutely unique phenomenon in the psychological and psychoanalytic literature, and his figure is seen standing at the gates of modern non-classical analysis may be a kind of measure things.
I remember such a case: Continue reading
1. Good or bad parenting – it can be reliably judged by can the child say, “I happy !”
2. Not too rely on own example, alas, only bad examples are contagious. The example is of course important, but only if you respect your child.
3. Your child seeking freedom from your parents? So, in the family something is not right, in a good family children feel free, they don’t come to rebel against their parents.
4. We are not the masters of their children’s lives, we cannot know their fate.
We do not yet know what is good and what is bad for their future, so we will be careful in all decisions that may affect the way the child. Continue reading