Many parents care about their child as early as possible “sat on the potty.” And starting early to potty train, many of them fail, blaming it on just your baby. But was he really?
Some parents are trying to teach your child to potty as soon as he started to sit up, trying to get rid of Laundry and diapers, others, on the contrary, in no hurry, and their child at the right time a few days he suddenly sits to the right place.
Why is this happening? And the thing is that every baby has periods most sensitive to the development in that skill associated with the maturation of organs and systems of the body. Toilet training of the child must involve a sufficient period of strengthening the walls of the bladder, nervous system development and certain centers of the brain. And it happens not before 1 year 4 months. I note that this is the average age, in fact some children begin to control the processes of urination and defecation a little earlier and others a little later, but in any case, they all go through the same stages of development.
By the way, it should be noted that those parents who try to teach your toddler to use a toilet too early, often wait too early successes from him in other areas of development. Continue reading
Your question is complicated by their small informative — unfortunately, the information provided by you is not enough for a full-fledged system of psychoanalysis. However, I will try to respond maximally deployed.
This stubborn “Golden” child
Strangely enough, but the efforts of parents, the most stubborn and disobedient child may be the one born with the “Golden” child, obedient, diligent and kind.
We are talking about children with anal vector. You can call them the “mamonovskij” — these children, like anyone else, depend on mom, with her approval (or disapproval). These children are sometimes called passive — they are really led and need mom directed, praised, recognized his achievements.
Anal children differ in rigidity of thinking, and a slower metabolism. Their body is not designed for sprint races — in all senses of the word. Therefore, these children sometimes seem slow, and the parents may be tempting to hurry the child.
This leads to the fact that the child strays from his rhythm and can’t finish the job. Due to the peculiarities Continue reading
The lectures of the famous British child psychiatrist and psychoanalyst addressed to pediatricians, internists, obstetricians, nurses, and, of course, parents. For parents and expectant moms and dads – this book is immensely important because it relieves the unfounded anxiety and instills confidence. It describes and analyzes motherhood as it is, without horror and embellishment. For example, the feeling of total absorption in newborn, bordering on extinction of self, depression and irritation, fear of being “a bad mother”, the strange behavior of the child.
Professionals will be pleasantly surprised or, conversely, puzzled and a little shocked, but I’ll get food for thought.
Probably, Winnicott was also a kind man.
It is difficult to write the Foreword to the book, which is not like him, but maybe even harder to the one that is admired. I want to use some superlatives, and I think, I myself would this Preface did not believe. But what to do if the book of Winnicott is really an absolutely unique phenomenon in the psychological and psychoanalytic literature, and his figure is seen standing at the gates of modern non-classical analysis may be a kind of measure things.
I remember such a case: Continue reading