Children can’t hear what he said

Parents sometimes face the situation that they tell the child one thing and he does not hear and does the opposite. There is the anger and outrage. Let’s see what was the matter. Why the child “hear” what you say? It turns out the child perceives our phrase on its own.

In the childhood phrase-programs are easily digested, as the child’s mind control is lower than in adults. Any careless word perceived by children literally. Parents, often without realizing it, inform the child of the phrase with a hidden installation that is not benefiting them. Of course, this happens unconsciously, we are trying to help, but use the incorrect phrase.

Today we look at the often used phrase and determine how their child hears.

«do Not walk through puddles, catch a cold”, “the dog ” bite”, “Eat slowly, your stomach will be sore”, etc.

The child hears that the world is hostile. All, whatever he did, it is dangerous. That is, it is better to do nothing.

In the future it may become passive, afraid to make a step towards peace, it will Continue reading

Ten tips for parents

How to understand school problems? They are so diverse that sometimes it’s hard to do even for an expert. Even more difficult — the teacher. Often lack patience and understanding parents. But most of all suffers from them a child!

Sometimes it starts, seemingly with little things; the slow pace of work, difficulties in memorizing the letters, inability to concentrate. Something blamed on age — say, not used, still small; something on the shortcomings of education; something — for unwillingness to work. But at this point, the difficulties are even relatively easy to detect, they are quite easy to fix. But then the problem snowballing — is one difficulty pulling the other, forming a terrible and vicious cycle. Constant failures so discouraged child that the difficulties of “creep” from one subject to another.

The child is given: begins to consider himself helpless, unable, and all your efforts useless. Psychologists believe that learning outcomes depend not only on the capable or not capable to solve its task, but also on how he believes that he will be able to solve this problem. If the failures follow one another, then, of course, there comes a time when the child himself says: “No, I never will”. Times “never”, then there is no need Continue reading

Small children.

The lectures of the famous British child psychiatrist and psychoanalyst addressed to pediatricians, internists, obstetricians, nurses, and, of course, parents. For parents and expectant moms and dads – this book is immensely important because it relieves the unfounded anxiety and instills confidence. It describes and analyzes motherhood as it is, without horror and embellishment. For example, the feeling of total absorption in newborn, bordering on extinction of self, depression and irritation, fear of being “a bad mother”, the strange behavior of the child.

Professionals will be pleasantly surprised or, conversely, puzzled and a little shocked, but I’ll get food for thought.

Probably, Winnicott was also a kind man.

It is difficult to write the Foreword to the book, which is not like him, but maybe even harder to the one that is admired. I want to use some superlatives, and I think, I myself would this Preface did not believe. But what to do if the book of Winnicott is really an absolutely unique phenomenon in the psychological and psychoanalytic literature, and his figure is seen standing at the gates of modern non-classical analysis may be a kind of measure things.

I remember such a case: Continue reading

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Why do children lie?
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Doctors say that we need through the power and screaming to get the kid to sleep alone.
If a child — a boy age 7 months — sleeping with parents in the same bed, and in his bed he starts screaming and falls asleep. If it continues…

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