Parents sometimes face the situation that they tell the child one thing and he does not hear and does the opposite. There is the anger and outrage. Let’s see what was the matter. Why the child “hear” what you say? It turns out the child perceives our phrase on its own.
In the childhood phrase-programs are easily digested, as the child’s mind control is lower than in adults. Any careless word perceived by children literally. Parents, often without realizing it, inform the child of the phrase with a hidden installation that is not benefiting them. Of course, this happens unconsciously, we are trying to help, but use the incorrect phrase.
Today we look at the often used phrase and determine how their child hears.
«do Not walk through puddles, catch a cold”, “the dog ” bite”, “Eat slowly, your stomach will be sore”, etc.
The child hears that the world is hostile. All, whatever he did, it is dangerous. That is, it is better to do nothing.
In the future it may become passive, afraid to make a step towards peace, it will Continue reading
Modern style – assertive, aggressive, bold. Teenage girls trying to keep up guys: foul language, doing karate and Wu Shu, Smoking, drinking, “change partners”, often joined gangs. Femininity many feel undervalued, seen as a sign of weakness. In honor of a friend’s He-man, are able to put the opponent on shovels. Them, however, it is difficult to imagine a gentle, caring mothers. But it is not necessary, they are not that type. And look at toys. Unless earlier girls were invited to play in culturistic, hung with a variety of weapons? In fairness, I note that charming dolls with porcelain faces, too, of course, is on the shelves. But first, cannot afford them, and secondly, this is yesterday, the retro. I’m not talking about books. In fact, twenty years ago, we had enough specifically the maiden references (here it is, “asexual pedagogy”!): read to the holes “Dink” Aseeva, some story of Lev Kassil, novels of Alexander green, very popular in the 70’s and 80’s. “girls, girls, Girls is the book for you.” Now books for girls and less. Old not all reissued, and the new is, in General, crime and adventure for boys and about boys. Even “Alice” Kir Bulychev, in my experience, Continue reading
This article is not about education in the pedagogical sense of the word, but to circumvent this important question we could not. And although books on child pedagogy lot, but still interesting to see how raising children in different countries. Well, contact the eyewitnesses.
In his book ‘Sakura & oak” V. Ovchinnikov, telling about the life, the way of life in Japan and England, recreates a lot of interesting details of raising children.
“there are Few on the ground of the countries where the children would be surrounded by more love than in Japan. But the seal of subordination is even on the parent’s feelings. Eldest son stand out among other children. It is treated literally as the heir to the throne, although the throne that only the parental home.
From an early age such baby is often the most obnoxious in the house.
It is taught to perceive concessions granted, because he will be then not only taking care of elderly parents, but the responsibility for the family as a whole, for procreation, for the father’s house.
As the eldest son grows up, he and his father begins to decide what is good and what is bad for his younger siblings.
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