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Small children.

The lectures of the famous British child psychiatrist and psychoanalyst addressed to pediatricians, internists, obstetricians, nurses, and, of course, parents. For parents and expectant moms and dads – this book is immensely important because it relieves the unfounded anxiety and instills confidence. It describes and analyzes motherhood as it is, without horror and embellishment. For example, the feeling of total absorption in newborn, bordering on extinction of self, depression and irritation, fear of being “a bad mother”, the strange behavior of the child.

Professionals will be pleasantly surprised or, conversely, puzzled and a little shocked, but I’ll get food for thought.

Probably, Winnicott was also a kind man.

It is difficult to write the Foreword to the book, which is not like him, but maybe even harder to the one that is admired. I want to use some superlatives, and I think, I myself would this Preface did not believe. But what to do if the book of Winnicott is really an absolutely unique phenomenon in the psychological and psychoanalytic literature, and his figure is seen standing at the gates of modern non-classical analysis may be a kind of measure things.

I remember such a case: Continue reading

About parenting

Today, when the whole world celebrates the international children’s day . we turned to the pastor of the Moscow Central Baptist Church (near spare parts market) Sergey Nikolaevich Zolotarevsky with the request to share your views about the principles and methods of upbringing children.

What are the principles and methods of education of children in a Christian family?

As the gospel says, children should be brought up in the fear of the Lord. This implies that in a Christian family, the child with mother’s milk absorbs the atmosphere, a discipline, a mode of the day. From infancy he sees that on the day of Sunday, when the whole family goes to Church. The example of parents should be the basis of education. I believe that children should be taught to pray, the child must be present in those moments when the family reads the Word of God when praying. The lifestyle of the parents, must shape the lives of the youngest members of the family.

To three years a child develops rapidly, absorbing like a sponge all that he sees around. From three to seven years, he must be “slave” . that is, be in complete obedience. With one hand parents should not “to irritate their children” . but Scripture also says: “don’t spare the rod for his own son” Continue reading

Doctors say that we need through the power and screaming to get the kid to sleep alone.

If a child — a boy age 7 months — sleeping with parents in the same bed, and in his bed he starts screaming and falls asleep. If it continues he will continue to sleep with their parents, whether it can affect him negatively in the future? Or you need to teach him to sleep separately? While pediatricians insist that you need through the power and screaming to get the kid to sleep alone. Do I need to listen to the advice of doctors? S.

Responsible Itâ Minkin

Dear S.!

So, the dilemma: on the one hand — what the child wants, on the other hand — that claim doctor (for fear that you may accidentally crush the child, not g-d forbid). And “poor” parents between them.

Let’s agree: parents are not so poor, and they — and only they, considering all pros and cons, — make a decision and doing it. And the child will have to live with it. (Not so long ago in America, published a book by the noted psychologist about how important it is for the child to sleep with their parents. So the huge range of opinions).

The child will not be hurt by the fact that he sleeps with his parents, but if he’s breastfed, it combines the pleasant with the useful: opportunity “refueling” Continue reading

Doctors say that we need through the power and screaming to get the kid to sleep alone.
If a child — a boy age 7 months — sleeping with parents in the same bed, and in his bed he starts screaming and falls asleep. If it continues…

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