Parents sometimes face the situation that they tell the child one thing and he does not hear and does the opposite. There is the anger and outrage. Let’s see what was the matter. Why the child “hear” what you say? It turns out the child perceives our phrase on its own.
In the childhood phrase-programs are easily digested, as the child’s mind control is lower than in adults. Any careless word perceived by children literally. Parents, often without realizing it, inform the child of the phrase with a hidden installation that is not benefiting them. Of course, this happens unconsciously, we are trying to help, but use the incorrect phrase.
Today we look at the often used phrase and determine how their child hears.
«do Not walk through puddles, catch a cold”, “the dog ” bite”, “Eat slowly, your stomach will be sore”, etc.
The child hears that the world is hostile. All, whatever he did, it is dangerous. That is, it is better to do nothing.
In the future it may become passive, afraid to make a step towards peace, it will Continue reading
Sometimes that busy parents lose contact with the child. How can I recover it? Another frequent situation is that adults come together, form a family, men need to establish contact with the child from his first marriage. How?
Describe Your relationship at the moment.
What would You like to see your relationship with Your child?
What is your relationship with the child’s mother?
Those involved in raising the child?
How often and how much time spends with the child wife?
How often and how much time they spend with the child You?
What do You do with a child when spending time together?
Do You know the interests and Hobbies of Your child?
Do You know his favorite books, movies?
Do You know his friends?
Would You like Your child’s behavior was similar to You? – then take the process of education into their own hands. Continue reading
Your question is complicated by their small informative — unfortunately, the information provided by you is not enough for a full-fledged system of psychoanalysis. However, I will try to respond maximally deployed.
This stubborn “Golden” child
Strangely enough, but the efforts of parents, the most stubborn and disobedient child may be the one born with the “Golden” child, obedient, diligent and kind.
We are talking about children with anal vector. You can call them the “mamonovskij” — these children, like anyone else, depend on mom, with her approval (or disapproval). These children are sometimes called passive — they are really led and need mom directed, praised, recognized his achievements.
Anal children differ in rigidity of thinking, and a slower metabolism. Their body is not designed for sprint races — in all senses of the word. Therefore, these children sometimes seem slow, and the parents may be tempting to hurry the child.
This leads to the fact that the child strays from his rhythm and can’t finish the job. Due to the peculiarities Continue reading