We will also concentrate on the moment, which is not always taken into account, but we must keep it in mind. There is a Vedic system of education for boys and girls. It is a completely different upbringing. Boys from the age of five in the Vedic society gave to the theological school. In raising boys and girls there is a difference, just as there is a difference between a man and a woman.
The difference is that the boy should be educated in responsibility for society, for my future wife, my future children and to increase the overall strength of mind, strength of knowledge, strength, skill, i.e., to cultivate the positive qualities associated with the liability. Educating girls is to give her understanding of the importance of: what is family, what is it that she was oriented in all family matters and family relations as a fish in water. In the Vedic culture the girl brought up at home, and mom often helped friends and acquaintances, skilled in various fields: in cooking, embroidering, etc., and also the quality of character of the girl was brought up in accordance with the behavior of the adult female, which she was looking.
The boy was educated at a theological school, his spiritual master – the person who possesses Continue reading
All good habits of children parents consider its merit, and in the poor blaming the street, friends and, of course, school. You can often hear as a mother complains that her son was a good, sweet boy, but I went to school not to learn: constantly arguing, with all the quarrels, trying to offend. Grieving mother in this situation is clear – we want to see in their children only the best quality. The more a shame when you have these qualities we try to instill.
But is it so much to be frightened by bad habits?
First, any habit is basically a need. Therefore to fight it by prohibitions and punishments often simply impossible.
Secondly, bad habits parents often consider those that don’t like them. Actually, the division habits good and bad is very relative.
Adults understand that when it comes to their own “oddities”. But to children, we tend to be more demanding.
Thirdly, the emergence of habits and inclinations are largely due to their personalities and upbringing in early childhood, so the “bad” example – though the streets, even though the school is not so terrible Continue reading
The lectures of the famous British child psychiatrist and psychoanalyst addressed to pediatricians, internists, obstetricians, nurses, and, of course, parents. For parents and expectant moms and dads – this book is immensely important because it relieves the unfounded anxiety and instills confidence. It describes and analyzes motherhood as it is, without horror and embellishment. For example, the feeling of total absorption in newborn, bordering on extinction of self, depression and irritation, fear of being “a bad mother”, the strange behavior of the child.
Professionals will be pleasantly surprised or, conversely, puzzled and a little shocked, but I’ll get food for thought.
Probably, Winnicott was also a kind man.
It is difficult to write the Foreword to the book, which is not like him, but maybe even harder to the one that is admired. I want to use some superlatives, and I think, I myself would this Preface did not believe. But what to do if the book of Winnicott is really an absolutely unique phenomenon in the psychological and psychoanalytic literature, and his figure is seen standing at the gates of modern non-classical analysis may be a kind of measure things.
I remember such a case: Continue reading