How to understand school problems? They are so diverse that sometimes it’s hard to do even for an expert. Even more difficult — the teacher. Often lack patience and understanding parents. But most of all suffers from them a child!
Sometimes it starts, seemingly with little things; the slow pace of work, difficulties in memorizing the letters, inability to concentrate. Something blamed on age — say, not used, still small; something on the shortcomings of education; something — for unwillingness to work. But at this point, the difficulties are even relatively easy to detect, they are quite easy to fix. But then the problem snowballing — is one difficulty pulling the other, forming a terrible and vicious cycle. Constant failures so discouraged child that the difficulties of “creep” from one subject to another.
The child is given: begins to consider himself helpless, unable, and all your efforts useless. Psychologists believe that learning outcomes depend not only on the capable or not capable to solve its task, but also on how he believes that he will be able to solve this problem. If the failures follow one another, then, of course, there comes a time when the child himself says: “No, I never will”. Times “never”, then there is no need Continue reading
All good habits of children parents consider its merit, and in the poor blaming the street, friends and, of course, school. You can often hear as a mother complains that her son was a good, sweet boy, but I went to school not to learn: constantly arguing, with all the quarrels, trying to offend. Grieving mother in this situation is clear – we want to see in their children only the best quality. The more a shame when you have these qualities we try to instill.
But is it so much to be frightened by bad habits?
First, any habit is basically a need. Therefore to fight it by prohibitions and punishments often simply impossible.
Secondly, bad habits parents often consider those that don’t like them. Actually, the division habits good and bad is very relative.
Adults understand that when it comes to their own “oddities”. But to children, we tend to be more demanding.
Thirdly, the emergence of habits and inclinations are largely due to their personalities and upbringing in early childhood, so the “bad” example – though the streets, even though the school is not so terrible Continue reading
The lectures of the famous British child psychiatrist and psychoanalyst addressed to pediatricians, internists, obstetricians, nurses, and, of course, parents. For parents and expectant moms and dads – this book is immensely important because it relieves the unfounded anxiety and instills confidence. It describes and analyzes motherhood as it is, without horror and embellishment. For example, the feeling of total absorption in newborn, bordering on extinction of self, depression and irritation, fear of being “a bad mother”, the strange behavior of the child.
Professionals will be pleasantly surprised or, conversely, puzzled and a little shocked, but I’ll get food for thought.
Probably, Winnicott was also a kind man.
It is difficult to write the Foreword to the book, which is not like him, but maybe even harder to the one that is admired. I want to use some superlatives, and I think, I myself would this Preface did not believe. But what to do if the book of Winnicott is really an absolutely unique phenomenon in the psychological and psychoanalytic literature, and his figure is seen standing at the gates of modern non-classical analysis may be a kind of measure things.
I remember such a case: Continue reading