Parents sometimes face the situation that they tell the child one thing and he does not hear and does the opposite. There is the anger and outrage. Let’s see what was the matter. Why the child “hear” what you say? It turns out the child perceives our phrase on its own.
In the childhood phrase-programs are easily digested, as the child’s mind control is lower than in adults. Any careless word perceived by children literally. Parents, often without realizing it, inform the child of the phrase with a hidden installation that is not benefiting them. Of course, this happens unconsciously, we are trying to help, but use the incorrect phrase.
Today we look at the often used phrase and determine how their child hears.
«do Not walk through puddles, catch a cold”, “the dog ” bite”, “Eat slowly, your stomach will be sore”, etc.
The child hears that the world is hostile. All, whatever he did, it is dangerous. That is, it is better to do nothing.
In the future it may become passive, afraid to make a step towards peace, it will Continue reading
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This stubborn “Golden” child
Strangely enough, but the efforts of parents, the most stubborn and disobedient child may be the one born with the “Golden” child, obedient, diligent and kind.
We are talking about children with anal vector. You can call them the “mamonovskij” — these children, like anyone else, depend on mom, with her approval (or disapproval). These children are sometimes called passive — they are really led and need mom directed, praised, recognized his achievements.
Anal children differ in rigidity of thinking, and a slower metabolism. Their body is not designed for sprint races — in all senses of the word. Therefore, these children sometimes seem slow, and the parents may be tempting to hurry the child.
This leads to the fact that the child strays from his rhythm and can’t finish the job. Due to the peculiarities Continue reading
For fifth-grader who comes to school on 1 September, everything is new. The transition of pupils from primary to secondary school coincides with a peculiar late childhood — stable period of development in a child’s life. Yesterday he was young, and tomorrow will be a solid fifth-grader. In fifth grade your child will find a new adulthood, a new system of instruction: the class teacher and subject teachers who teach new subjects in different rooms. Some fifth graders are proud to have grown up, and is quickly drawn into the learning process, while others experience changes in school life, and adapting to them is delayed. The successful adaptation of a younger teenager depends not only on its intellectual readiness, but also on how well he is able to build relationships and communicate with classmates and teachers, to comply with school rules, to be guided in new situations. In this period, children often change — anxious without any obvious reason, become timid, or, conversely, a cheeky, too much fuss. As a result the boys reduced efficiency, they become forgetful, disorganized, sometimes in children worsen sleep and appetite.Therefore, among the difficulties Continue reading