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How to teach 7-year-old son to obey?

Your question is complicated by their small informative — unfortunately, the information provided by you is not enough for a full-fledged system of psychoanalysis. However, I will try to respond maximally deployed.

This stubborn “Golden” child

Strangely enough, but the efforts of parents, the most stubborn and disobedient child may be the one born with the “Golden” child, obedient, diligent and kind.

We are talking about children with anal vector. You can call them the “mamonovskij” — these children, like anyone else, depend on mom, with her approval (or disapproval). These children are sometimes called passive — they are really led and need mom directed, praised, recognized his achievements.

Anal children differ in rigidity of thinking, and a slower metabolism. Their body is not designed for sprint races — in all senses of the word. Therefore, these children sometimes seem slow, and the parents may be tempting to hurry the child.

This leads to the fact that the child strays from his rhythm and can’t finish the job. Due to the peculiarities Continue reading

Tips for parents of fifth graders

For fifth-grader who comes to school on 1 September, everything is new. The transition of pupils from primary to secondary school coincides with a peculiar late childhood — stable period of development in a child’s life. Yesterday he was young, and tomorrow will be a solid fifth-grader. In fifth grade your child will find a new adulthood, a new system of instruction: the class teacher and subject teachers who teach new subjects in different rooms. Some fifth graders are proud to have grown up, and is quickly drawn into the learning process, while others experience changes in school life, and adapting to them is delayed. The successful adaptation of a younger teenager depends not only on its intellectual readiness, but also on how well he is able to build relationships and communicate with classmates and teachers, to comply with school rules, to be guided in new situations. In this period, children often change — anxious without any obvious reason, become timid, or, conversely, a cheeky, too much fuss. As a result the boys reduced efficiency, they become forgetful, disorganized, sometimes in children worsen sleep and appetite.Therefore, among the difficulties Continue reading

Small children.

The lectures of the famous British child psychiatrist and psychoanalyst addressed to pediatricians, internists, obstetricians, nurses, and, of course, parents. For parents and expectant moms and dads – this book is immensely important because it relieves the unfounded anxiety and instills confidence. It describes and analyzes motherhood as it is, without horror and embellishment. For example, the feeling of total absorption in newborn, bordering on extinction of self, depression and irritation, fear of being “a bad mother”, the strange behavior of the child.

Professionals will be pleasantly surprised or, conversely, puzzled and a little shocked, but I’ll get food for thought.

Probably, Winnicott was also a kind man.

It is difficult to write the Foreword to the book, which is not like him, but maybe even harder to the one that is admired. I want to use some superlatives, and I think, I myself would this Preface did not believe. But what to do if the book of Winnicott is really an absolutely unique phenomenon in the psychological and psychoanalytic literature, and his figure is seen standing at the gates of modern non-classical analysis may be a kind of measure things.

I remember such a case: Continue reading

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