Parents sometimes face the situation that they tell the child one thing and he does not hear and does the opposite. There is the anger and outrage. Let’s see what was the matter. Why the child “hear” what you say? It turns out the child perceives our phrase on its own.
In the childhood phrase-programs are easily digested, as the child’s mind control is lower than in adults. Any careless word perceived by children literally. Parents, often without realizing it, inform the child of the phrase with a hidden installation that is not benefiting them. Of course, this happens unconsciously, we are trying to help, but use the incorrect phrase.
Today we look at the often used phrase and determine how their child hears.
«do Not walk through puddles, catch a cold”, “the dog ” bite”, “Eat slowly, your stomach will be sore”, etc.
The child hears that the world is hostile. All, whatever he did, it is dangerous. That is, it is better to do nothing.
In the future it may become passive, afraid to make a step towards peace, it will Continue reading
Your question is complicated by their small informative — unfortunately, the information provided by you is not enough for a full-fledged system of psychoanalysis. However, I will try to respond maximally deployed.
This stubborn “Golden” child
Strangely enough, but the efforts of parents, the most stubborn and disobedient child may be the one born with the “Golden” child, obedient, diligent and kind.
We are talking about children with anal vector. You can call them the “mamonovskij” — these children, like anyone else, depend on mom, with her approval (or disapproval). These children are sometimes called passive — they are really led and need mom directed, praised, recognized his achievements.
Anal children differ in rigidity of thinking, and a slower metabolism. Their body is not designed for sprint races — in all senses of the word. Therefore, these children sometimes seem slow, and the parents may be tempting to hurry the child.
This leads to the fact that the child strays from his rhythm and can’t finish the job. Due to the peculiarities Continue reading
Modern style – assertive, aggressive, bold. Teenage girls trying to keep up guys: foul language, doing karate and Wu Shu, Smoking, drinking, “change partners”, often joined gangs. Femininity many feel undervalued, seen as a sign of weakness. In honor of a friend’s He-man, are able to put the opponent on shovels. Them, however, it is difficult to imagine a gentle, caring mothers. But it is not necessary, they are not that type. And look at toys. Unless earlier girls were invited to play in culturistic, hung with a variety of weapons? In fairness, I note that charming dolls with porcelain faces, too, of course, is on the shelves. But first, cannot afford them, and secondly, this is yesterday, the retro. I’m not talking about books. In fact, twenty years ago, we had enough specifically the maiden references (here it is, “asexual pedagogy”!): read to the holes “Dink” Aseeva, some story of Lev Kassil, novels of Alexander green, very popular in the 70’s and 80’s. “girls, girls, Girls is the book for you.” Now books for girls and less. Old not all reissued, and the new is, in General, crime and adventure for boys and about boys. Even “Alice” Kir Bulychev, in my experience, Continue reading