Parents sometimes face the situation that they tell the child one thing and he does not hear and does the opposite. There is the anger and outrage. Let’s see what was the matter. Why the child “hear” what you say? It turns out the child perceives our phrase on its own.
In the childhood phrase-programs are easily digested, as the child’s mind control is lower than in adults. Any careless word perceived by children literally. Parents, often without realizing it, inform the child of the phrase with a hidden installation that is not benefiting them. Of course, this happens unconsciously, we are trying to help, but use the incorrect phrase.
Today we look at the often used phrase and determine how their child hears.
«do Not walk through puddles, catch a cold”, “the dog ” bite”, “Eat slowly, your stomach will be sore”, etc.
The child hears that the world is hostile. All, whatever he did, it is dangerous. That is, it is better to do nothing.
In the future it may become passive, afraid to make a step towards peace, it will Continue reading
Many parents care about their child as early as possible “sat on the potty.” And starting early to potty train, many of them fail, blaming it on just your baby. But was he really?
Some parents are trying to teach your child to potty as soon as he started to sit up, trying to get rid of Laundry and diapers, others, on the contrary, in no hurry, and their child at the right time a few days he suddenly sits to the right place.
Why is this happening? And the thing is that every baby has periods most sensitive to the development in that skill associated with the maturation of organs and systems of the body. Toilet training of the child must involve a sufficient period of strengthening the walls of the bladder, nervous system development and certain centers of the brain. And it happens not before 1 year 4 months. I note that this is the average age, in fact some children begin to control the processes of urination and defecation a little earlier and others a little later, but in any case, they all go through the same stages of development.
By the way, it should be noted that those parents who try to teach your toddler to use a toilet too early, often wait too early successes from him in other areas of development. Continue reading
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This stubborn “Golden” child
Strangely enough, but the efforts of parents, the most stubborn and disobedient child may be the one born with the “Golden” child, obedient, diligent and kind.
We are talking about children with anal vector. You can call them the “mamonovskij” — these children, like anyone else, depend on mom, with her approval (or disapproval). These children are sometimes called passive — they are really led and need mom directed, praised, recognized his achievements.
Anal children differ in rigidity of thinking, and a slower metabolism. Their body is not designed for sprint races — in all senses of the word. Therefore, these children sometimes seem slow, and the parents may be tempting to hurry the child.
This leads to the fact that the child strays from his rhythm and can’t finish the job. Due to the peculiarities Continue reading