“Rose up in the morning, washed, cleaned up and immediately bring to the planet,” said the Little Prince in the tale of Saint-exupéry. Only how to convince your child?
Psychologists say that cleaning is not just useful, it is necessary for the formation of personality. Otherwise it grows up to be selfish and irresponsible people who knock things first you, and then on the wife or husband. On the contrary, the obligations giving him chores, you help a child become more independent and confident. Besides acquire a diligent assistant. And if so, then declare war child’s laziness.
How to teach a child 2 to 5 years to order
To accustom the child to the home work need 2-3 years . when the kids are keen to help adults, and your job is to support their desire. Three year olds are sensitive to the mess surrounding them, and if the home is an eternal mess, they are unlikely to grow neat.
The rule confidence
Strongly encourage the commitment of Chad to help you. Let the rag in his hands — let him wipe the dust. Little will perform assignments with joy, children of this age are fun imitating mom and dad. A very useful thing — a toy appliances. And year-old boy will be keen to vacuum the room with a toy cleaner that is accompanied by a special “trash”!
The rule of gradualism
As we often hear from parents that children do not pay attention to requests. And the parents are angry, frustrated, “How many times can you play that again? You are deaf. “. So why children do not respond to the request?
Remember the three main rules .
The authority of a parent is never to question. Forget these words: “You don’t obey me”. Keep your face, do not get hysterical. This does not mean that you need to talk to your child rude and inconsiderate. The child does not respond instantly to your requests? Do not rush to blame! Think about it, the baby was very tired and just doesn’t want to hear your instructions to do the things that make it not able to. Maybe the kid just thought, focused on his own feelings. Except with you it isn’t that you can’t hear anything around, absorbed in their emotions? Whether your requirement matches the capabilities and age of your child? Think about that before you put the task in front of the baby. Mom nervously flashy two-three-year-old children: “don’t move! Stay where you are! Don’t run! Now, sit still!”, — to cause confusion. You understand that a child of three should not sit quietly, for him, this state is not normal and pathological. Children at this age needs Continue reading
To 13 months, many parents begin to feel the stubbornness of children and to engage them in conflict, because the kids loudly declare your desires. This is the age of surprises for parents. But for children it is natural at this age to Express their desires, their opinions, develop a sense of his power and the feeling of influence on the world. For them it is now the main task.
A feature of this age is the word “no”, but it turns out that we teach this to their children. Neuroscientist Alan shore said that the baby hears the word “no” or its equivalent on average every nine minutes. Kids want to assert their will, and for them it is quite natural goal, but every time they hear: “No, you cannot play the pot on the couch, give it to me. Don’t run, sit in the car now. No, candy is not. No, it may break. Don’t fight!” Legitimate bans, every one of them. But the kid does not see the grounds for them, so most children resent, rebel and check every ban. This new feature is belligerent stubbornness — the first step to taking responsibility for yourself. Now if he’s not allowed to tell you “no”, then he will not be able to say “no” to their peers when they become a teenager. Give him a chance Continue reading