How to teach a child to potty
Many parents care about their child as early as possible “sat on the potty.” And starting early to potty train, many of them fail, blaming it on just your baby. But was he really?
Some parents are trying to teach your child to potty as soon as he started to sit up, trying to get rid of Laundry and diapers, others, on the contrary, in no hurry, and their child at the right time a few days he suddenly sits to the right place.
Why is this happening? And the thing is that every baby has periods most sensitive to the development in that skill associated with the maturation of organs and systems of the body. Toilet training of the child must involve a sufficient period of strengthening the walls of the bladder, nervous system development and certain centers of the brain. And it happens not before 1 year 4 months. I note that this is the average age, in fact some children begin to control the processes of urination and defecation a little earlier and others a little later, but in any case, they all go through the same stages of development.
By the way, it should be noted that those parents who try to teach your toddler to use a toilet too early, often wait too early successes from him in other areas of development. It is important to always remember – everything has its time.
Where to start?
So you’ve decided that your child is prepared for adulthood and to going to the potty. For a start, have patience, patience and again patience! Many neighborhood moms, grandmothers and other “sympathetic” person will confuse you by giving conflicting advice on how to “correctly” to teach, and telling about the early exploits of their children, who began to go to the toilet on command almost 3 months. Remember, your child is only yours and nobody else knows it better. The time will come and all will be right. Maybe someone has a baby and began to pee in 3 months where it is needed, but it’s only because mom was skillfully managed to catch it at the right time.
The education of a child is a publish matter for you, your child and your family. Sometimes parents seeking help from a psychologist with this problem, by the end of the first session come to the conclusion that this problem is not the child, and them personally.
That is strictly forbidden.
Do not force your child to sit on the potty, because, in this case, this process will cause negative emotions associated with imprisonment, and will form only aversion to this action.
To abuse, especially physical punishment for what he “wet” pants is not recommended. The effect is the same – a strong aversion to pot. The fact is that small children do not yet differentiate what exactly you abuse them, and any demonstration of verbal or physical aggression on your part refers specifically to oneself personally, not to any process that does not suit you, i.e. the kid can decide what mom and dad it suddenly fell out of love. And instead follow the instructions pushy parents and to pee in a certain place, a child can begin afraid to simply walk in closet.
No need to drop the child on the potty too often (more often than every 2 hours). This deprivation of personal liberty of the baby’s parents can seek only irritation and unwillingness to engage in tedious and uninteresting.
Do not try to teach a toddler to potty when he’s sick, because even an adult who is sick, you want to calm the situation.
To complicate the process of accustoming the child to the potty can also so-called crisis 1 year, when the child begins to rebel against compulsions and inhibitions of adults, requiring a greater degree of independence and autonomy.
With the active resistance of the child to go potty, immediately stop the process of habituation. The resistance of a baby is an adequate response to your overly active actions. It is a signal that something you’re doing wrong.
As for diapers, we have evidence that children who are not accustomed to this generation of progress, begin to use the potty earlier kids in diapers. Naturally, the abuse of a few diapers complicate your familiarity with the pot, because this child has never experienced the discomfort associated with coping natural needs. This complicates the process of accustoming to the pot due to the fact that the child does not see the need in this subject to him “warm and fuzzy”. But this does not mean that you need to shy away from this very convenient invention. Don’t listen to the ladies who claim that in their time, children at this age have already did everything in the right place, and that diapers are evil, which only dampens children, and, especially, their parents.
Always looking for a middle ground. You can in fact sometimes to release the baby to walk around naked, especially if it’s warm? The right thing by those mothers who use the diaper at night and during trips or walks, and basically allow your child to play without him. Indeed, why should the baby Wake up to the fact that it is wet? It’s frustrating for both him and my mother, which then have to change diapers, change clothes, calm and again to lay in the crib. Or why create unnecessary problems on the walk, especially if it’s chilly outside?
What are the first signs that the child can begin to potty train?
First, the child feels uncomfortable, if the panties wet. He is either nervous, crying, or approaching the parent with the silent request to remove his wet thing, or he tries to pull themselves.
Secondly, the child “stays dry” for more than two hours in a row.
Thirdly, the baby understands the words “write”, “shit”.
Fourth, the awareness of the fact of urination or defecation. I.e. the child either before the fact or during it, something says, grimacing, grunting or calling someone…
All these signs will tell you when the body and the mind of a child ready for toilet training science.
So, a child is ready to begin training.
For starters, introduce your little student with pot, if you haven’t done before. Put the Teddy bear on the potty, tell us what he was doing there. It would be useful if the child observed the process of going to the potty (toilet) in older children or even parents. Do not encourage games with this new subject, that he was not perceived as a toy, but give your child the opportunity to examine it closer.
If the introduction goes well, the boy understood what the subject, you can start to put him on the potty. Better to do it constantly after major secret moments (always after sleeping, feeding), and, as stated earlier, no more than 2 hours.
Prigovarivanie “pee” and other similar prigovorom helps encourage urination, so will not harm the process, but soon baby will be able to do without it, and later even to answer is: “know Yourself!”.
After work, remember to praise and hug their baby. This is very important! If you fail, nothing to worry about, then, is not wanted. But in the moments when the child is still a little wet, sometimes very gently to demonstrate their disappointment with puddles tainted panties, but not by the child.
With sufficient patience on the part of parents and certain mental and physical maturity of the child, the result will not keep itself waiting.